Yet another young woman has been taken by this vile disease at just 34 and with 3 young children Rebecca Ferdinand lost her fight with secondary breast cancer. A campaign to bring awareness and to get the much needed drugs added to the cancer fund is underway. I've said it before and I'll say it again "whats the point in fund raising to provide the money to develop drugs that will not be made available to those that need them?" yes were are back to that old chestnut again the cancer fund and the lack of drugs available. It just doesn't make any sense does it?
http://www.itv.com/news/granada/update/2015-05-05/campaigners-in-the-north-west-who-help-women-with-secondary-breast-cancer-are-calling-for-more-drugs-to-be-made-available-to-fight-the-disease/
This next link is written by a widower its his account of how secondary breast cancer stole his beautiful young wife, leaving 2 very young children. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/health/news/11584344/Rio-Ferdinand-is-one-of-us-now-a-young-widower-speaks-of-the-dreadful-pain.html
Showing posts with label dying. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dying. Show all posts
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Tuesday, 18 December 2012
The importance of being honest......
We have all heard of phrases like 'keeping it real, living in the here and now, being truthful with yourself' today I have been reminded that to be honest with oneself is the only way to be, some get by with living in denial, shoving it under the carpet and just plain pretending, me I live with it up close and personal somedays its sitting somewhere on my shoulders other days its in my face. We all have to come to terms with whatever it is that is challenging us whether that's our health our finances or family life we all live our lives as best we can taking each day one at a time.
Two things have prompted this post one is the passing of an old school friend who at the age of 44 passed away in her sleep on Friday night, she had a heart condition (same as her mother) she'd been out with her sisters and daughter that night and had a great time, went to bed and didn't wake up, shocking isn't it! I am glad she was spared the suffering and pain albeit she was taken way too young. The second by a fellow cancer patient who was worried about sharing the latest news of her disease progression and her decision to have chemo, as she is a self confessed juice junkie and advocate of alternative treatments she had up until now been successfully treating herself with a raw/juice diet and was worried about telling all her followers/readers of her decision
My advice to everyone reading this blog and anyone affected by the issues it raises, be kind to yourself and those around you no one knows when our time is up our bodies are just vehicles for the soul, all of us pass at some point and remember its not about the dying its about what we do whilst we are alive. Live for the moment.
Wishing you all a very merry xmas and a much much happier new year.
Love and light to all
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Two things have prompted this post one is the passing of an old school friend who at the age of 44 passed away in her sleep on Friday night, she had a heart condition (same as her mother) she'd been out with her sisters and daughter that night and had a great time, went to bed and didn't wake up, shocking isn't it! I am glad she was spared the suffering and pain albeit she was taken way too young. The second by a fellow cancer patient who was worried about sharing the latest news of her disease progression and her decision to have chemo, as she is a self confessed juice junkie and advocate of alternative treatments she had up until now been successfully treating herself with a raw/juice diet and was worried about telling all her followers/readers of her decision
My advice to everyone reading this blog and anyone affected by the issues it raises, be kind to yourself and those around you no one knows when our time is up our bodies are just vehicles for the soul, all of us pass at some point and remember its not about the dying its about what we do whilst we are alive. Live for the moment.
Wishing you all a very merry xmas and a much much happier new year.
Love and light to all
xxxxxxxxx
Tuesday, 10 July 2012
Hope to heal
I've found these films on cancer and present quite a case see what you think:
This one is by Bernie Siegel the writer of Love, Medicine and Miracles worth a watch:
Tuesday, 17 April 2012
The conversation you never thought you'd have with yourself....
Constantly whirring around in my brain are the most bizarre thoughts, the worst being death, my own, questions that arise are is it going to be quick? will I suffer? is it painful? will I go on to the other place? (spiritually speaking) also what will happen when I've gone? will lee and the cats cope without me? this may sounds stupid but its all part of the utter nightmare that is cancer. I worry about the fact that I probably won't out live my cats! they are young at 4 and a 1/2 the other is 3, I love them so much, my partner lee is a younger man than myself at 31 even if I died in 5 years time he would still be young enough to carry on meet someone else and have a family, something we would dearly of loved to of had, obviously I hope with all my heart that he will meet someone else and start a family and live a life full of joy and love he deserves it, he's had too put up with me and this cancer shit for the best part of a year, and as I've got secondaries for as long as I last.
You see cancer isn't just about the person who has it its about all those around that person the loved ones, family and friends, I think my own parents are probably living in denial bless them, wish I could live in denial but in order to fight this shit you have to face up to it. My brother has gone nuts on a health kick its freaked him out so much and again I don't really think he has accepted my dx and some of my friends when I told them the breast cancer had spread onto my lungs I think they just chose to not hear or pretend it was not happening. We all cope with trauma in different ways, I have good and bad days today is so so, not great but better than sunday when I suffered with a massive migraine and sickness and actually wished for a swift end. I find as time goes by I am actually becoming very matter of fact about death and dying, I worry about the fact that my parents and partner don't have loads of money and what if they can't afford to bury me! or that my funeral will put everyone in debt.
These are not the conversations anybody should have in there mind this is what cancer does to you.
You see cancer isn't just about the person who has it its about all those around that person the loved ones, family and friends, I think my own parents are probably living in denial bless them, wish I could live in denial but in order to fight this shit you have to face up to it. My brother has gone nuts on a health kick its freaked him out so much and again I don't really think he has accepted my dx and some of my friends when I told them the breast cancer had spread onto my lungs I think they just chose to not hear or pretend it was not happening. We all cope with trauma in different ways, I have good and bad days today is so so, not great but better than sunday when I suffered with a massive migraine and sickness and actually wished for a swift end. I find as time goes by I am actually becoming very matter of fact about death and dying, I worry about the fact that my parents and partner don't have loads of money and what if they can't afford to bury me! or that my funeral will put everyone in debt.
These are not the conversations anybody should have in there mind this is what cancer does to you.
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