The truth hurts....BUT its ok.....

Taken from a post on facebook, this resonates on so many levels.

Self-care: YOUR BEAUTIFUL SHADOW. This may seem heretical, but sometimes the "positive thinkers" kind of piss me off. There's something about telling someone with serious disease, illness, or life challenge, to "just think positive" that ignores the very rich, beautiful reality of the human truth, that sometimes life is messy, that sometimes we are messy, and — importantly — that there are some things beyond our control, that there are Unknowable processes that are beyond our cognizance (i.e., we cannot "control" disease).

Certainly this is no advocacy of wallowing, spite, self-blame, pity. The Truth in the positive-thought/new-thought spiritualities is that harbouring and feeding the harder emotions does dampen our vitality, if at very least by the stress-related hormonal and neurotransmitter cascades thus opened and the muscular tensions thus released: our bodies and brains are restricted and, thereby, our experience of peace.

But there's something to discover in being courageous enough to permit the so-called negative emotions: PERMITTING THEM DOES NOT MEAN FOSTERING. We instead allow them to arise and then pass (psychophysiologists have reportedly documented that any emotion, no matter how extreme, actually lasts at most 30 to 60 seconds).

Be brave enough to let the physical experience of the emotion move through you, and AS MUCH AS YOU CAN, be mature and self-loving enough to feel that 30-second experience WITHOUT hurling it (i.e., "dumping sh*t) on other people (for we know we hurt ourselves when we hurt others).

BUT DEAR ONES, GET REAL: WE ARE DEALING WITH CANCER. Of course sometimes you are going to be discouraged, angry and distrustful — with G-d, with well-intentioned people who say ignorant things, with even our bodies themselves at moments when we are wracked with pain.

•None of these emotions/thoughts detracts for one second from your beauty.• I would wish you to know this deeply. Root just enough in Your Grace that you can let the whole of life move through you. And yes, set an Intention on healing, on the uplifting emotions (in end, it's about what you are worth and the life that wants to move and express itself through you).

This is no less a heroine's mission (and yes, I mean "of the feminine", therefore expressly use the word "heroine") — to hold the mess and maelstrom of the human experience while yet connecting to the glorious still-point of something Divine.

You have it in you. Let it be and let it serve you today. Sending so very much love.

(Ellyn Kerr for You Can Thrive!)